I see improvements, changes, and developments happening all around. People are building and upgrading things. When I see improvements, I assume that assessments have been made to remove the old worn out things and replace it with new updated ones. In life improvements are also needed and necessary for success.
3 Pieces to Improvement
1. Evaluate – Before any major reconstruction is started, an assessment of the area is done to see what will fit best. New changes are reviewed against existing structures to make the best improvements for the area.
To improve yourself you must find out what’s going on. It is easy to get into a grove or habit that really isn’t the best for you. Self-evaluation is activating the inner voice that tells you if you are doing right or wrong. This voice must be developed and implemented into your everyday life for success. Improve yourself by evaluating where you are now and working at it daily.
2. Exonerate – This is a big word that means to forgive. When improvement needs to take place you can’t keep reliving the past. If a builders reflect on how awesome a structure was fifty years ago, and allows that memory to prevent him from removing the rotten structure, he is not wise. The needed improvements are hindered because of past experiences that are being relived.
With your life you must exonerate (forgive) and learn from your past. Forgive yourself for past mistakes and past problems. John Maxwell says it this way, "Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn." Learn from your past failures and improve who you are. Do keep in mind that failing is not a pass card to irresponsibility but a focus of directing yourself to wholeness and peace. Exonerate (forgive) and love yourself for who you are becoming not for who you use to be.
3. Esteem – A building will not get the updates it needs if it is not top on the list. The changes must be put in high regard or importance to be improved upon. When changes are esteemed, the time and resources will be given to make it happen.
In your life you must have esteem for self-improvement. Place a high value on respecting yourself and honoring your values and principles. Love yourself by doing things that are loveable. I was talking to an older gentleman the other day who explained to me how to be more loving. He said, “Love is like muscle. To gain more muscle you must lift more weights. So to gain more love, you must give more love.” Esteem yourself by improving who you really are daily.
Improve your life by first evaluating it and then exonerate the mistakes found. When that is done you will be able to esteem the real points that will help you be more effective for a life of success.
Attitudes of Gratitude
How great is your life?
How do you value the things you have?
The quality of your life is from a choice you make and act on daily. Your thoughts produce the way you feel and respond to your life. You may never have everything you want and think you need but actuality no one has everything. So what separates the successful and valuable people from the unsuccessful and shunned people?
I’m glad you asked. It is their ATTITUDE.
3 Attitudes To Show Your Gratitude
1. Excited Attitude – It is impressive, when business workers are excited about their customers. A warm feeling and sense of belonging comes when we are sincerely greeted with "welcome to …", and "let us know if we can help you with anything". When excitement is expressed about our purpose and reason for being, our lives will reflect it every day. It will seem to just pour out because we are saturated with expectations which breed an excited attitude.
To Do: An excited attitude calls for a mental decision to find a way to appreciate the good, the bad, and the ugly. Your attitude should not be based on the instant outcomes, but should be set on what is desired or expected despite the short term results. Go after each opportunity with purpose and drive. Each day is a chance to be better than who you were yesterday. Don't drag your feet. Don’t tell yourself, “This is boring”. If you have to be somewhere, find a way to engage in something. Attach your mind to finding excitement in everything you do. An excited attitude fights the attitude of boredom which helps you succeed in your life journey.
2. Efficient Attitude - We feel good when we don’t have to pay the full price for something we want. To have an efficient attitude is being able to think about doing tasks with the least amount of time, effort and resources. Some tasks will take more time, effort and resources than others but the attitude of efficiency will not try to get more than what it takes. It looks for ways to keep expenses low at all cost.
To Do: You can have an efficient attitude at the start of everything you face by having a plan. Planning helps you have foresight and vision for tasks ahead. Ask yourself, “how can I get this done with the least amount of waste." An efficient attitude shows that you are resourceful in your life journey.
3. Effective Attitude “Effective people are not problem-minded; they are opportunity-minded. They feed opportunities and stare problems.” Stephen Covey. A person with an effective attitude is able to produce the needed results despite obstacles. An ineffective person finds the problem and feels that their job is done.
To Do: You can strive each day to be a problem solver by setting your mind to produce positive results at every junction of life. Life is full of problems and obstacles but your attitude about life does not have to be a problem. Choose today to be effective with what you have, not with what you don’t.
Show your gratitude today by being excited about what you do, being efficient in the way you do, and being effective in how you do.
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Corder, says that, "...everyone experiences delays, denials, and/or devastation at some point in their lives." I have experienced all three and they seem to happen at the same time or consecutive to one another. Corder, also says that one of the reasons they seem to happen at the same time, is because of the “like attracts like” factor. One bad thing brings on another bad thing and one good thing brings on another good thing.
When it comes to our attitude, it also responds to the "like attracts like" factor. Whatever attitude or behavior we display attracts similar attitudes and behaviors. So to live effective lives, we must formulate our thinking to find the good over the bad.
3 “F’s” to Boost Your Attitude
1. Focus – Whatever has your attention is getting boosted from you. It is either being improved or being torn down. If you're focusing on what's going wrong and not looking for ways to fix it, what’s wrong gets bigger because you are adding fuel (boosting) to the wrong. This also works for what's right. Allow your focus to be on improving your surroundings so that other improvements can take place. An attitude of improving is an attitude set for success.
2. Faith – When challenging times come it is good to have an attitude of “this too will pass” or "this is only a season". Boosting your attitude to be positive can be difficult when the pressure is constantly on. Remember, faith is not something you can see. It is something that you believe or are strongly moved by. Despite the odds, work to first be positive, do the right things, and right your wrongs. Then what you desire can be positioned in an environment for success. Decide to boost your attitude to resemble what you want even if you don’t see it yet, that’s faith in action.
3. Foundation – The other day, I opened a fortune cookie from a Chinese restaurant and it read, “Ability will enable a man to get to the top, but character will keep him from falling.” Wow! To not fall requires good character, which is like a good foundation for a house. Abraham Lincoln said, “Reputation is the shadow. Character is the tree.” Our character is much more than just what we try to display for others to see, it is who we are even when no one is watching. Good character is doing the right thing because it is right to do what is right. Boost your attitude to resemble good character.
You can boost your life to acheive your goals effectively by focusing your attitude to attract improvement, position your faith on good things, and making good character a part of your foundation. Decide that today is going to be an awesome day because you carry the awesomeness in you!
Someone once said, “You can’t live a positive life with a negative mind”. If long term success is desired, you must have a positive attitude and a forward focus about yourself and your current situations. Beware of the killers that destroy success.
Overcoming 3 Success Killers:
1 – Un-thankful – Not showing or give appreciation for little things is a sure killer down the road. Sometimes we think its wimpy to say "thank you" and be polite but I have gotten into many places that I wouldn't have, by showing gratitude for small things. One writer put it this way, “It is not happy people who are thankful; it is thankful people who are happy.” To be thankful means that we appreciate other people. A thankful disposition is fundamental to achieving long term success.
To Do: Create a list of things you're appreciative of and read it daily. This activity can cultivate a positive attitude and keep the proper perspective in view. Remember to, “Be thankful in everything no matter what the circumstances may be….” Practice thinking positively about yourself and what you have, then you will open the door for more success in your life.
2. Negativity – Life is full of negative situations. However, that does not mean our attitude has to be negative with it. Allow a bad situation to become positive in your mind by learning something from it. Character is built by making it through tough times and challenges. I like to hear success stories and you probably do too. Stories of how someone made it through a devastating time. Most movies that are top in the box office have characters that made it through tough obstacles that should have taken them out.
To Do: You and I are constantly faced with dilemmas that can turn us negative, regretful, bitter, angry, etc. In spite of all that, allow yourselves to reach beyond the problems and see the strength that can be gained by persevering through. Also, work to keep a positive attitude through the pain, it will help you make better decisions and build personal value for success.
3. Complaining – Many times we are trying to find an issue with someone or something first. An attitude for success is to first look for what's right and what should be. Are our complaints building others up to be better or tearing them down.
To Do: Keep your complaints to a minimum, no matter what the problem, try to have a good attitude. Work on saying something positive to someone today. Look for the good in people before you look for something to complain about. Give people the benefit of doubt first.
Closing: An unchanged negative attitude will not bring you long term success. Only you can see the need to be thankful and change your attitude from negative to positive. Mary Englebreit says it like this, “If you don't like something change it; if you can't change it, change your attitude about it.
I was talking to a man the other day who was ticked off about the way he was treated by a waiter in a local restaurant. I listen to his side and I could understand his view and why he would be so angry. But his attitude was so bad that his thinking was becoming unstable. I asked, "Sir, did you consider the other side?" He responded with, "I don’t want to see it from her side. She was wrong and that is it." Wow! His attitude was blocking him from getting to the truth.
Your attitude gives your life stability or causes it to fall apart. It is said that your “attitude determines your altitude”. I like to say your attitude (the way you view life and handle life) determines where your go and how far you will go in life.
3 Stabilizers for your attitude:
1. Learn – First understand that your attitude, be it positive or negative, is a learned behavior or view that you have picked up from your parents, friends, teachers, etc. You might have heard the statement, “You act just like your momma”. When that is said you usually are reflecting an attitude or behavior that your momma would do in that same setting. The good news is that although you might have learned an attitude traits from your momma, daddy or close friend you can change your negative attitudes. To break an unwanted habit, a new habit must be learned. Start to look at people that are effective and successful around you, not the ones that get the laughs and seem to follow the latest trends, but those that have positive attitudes, are solid thinkers and are goal oriented. Learn and adapt positive attitudes to replace negativity. Maya Angelou said it this way, "If you don't like something change it, if you can't change it change your attitude."
2. Clarify – It is said that, "One’s perception is one’s reality and their reality dictates their attitude". This is true but not the end of the story. One’s perception must have a foundational point that is universal for all. In other words, this universal perception for everyone is rooted in something that does not change from person to person or situation to situation. Whatever this is, it brings clarity to all. What is this? It is Truth. When we all have an objective attitude for what’s true, then we can clarify the truth in the mist of sensitive feelings and emotions. I heard the other day a statement that really helped me. It was, “Emotions and feelings give you information not instructions." When you clarify your attitude to resemble what is true you are able to have an attitude of success.
3. Forward – John Maxwell has a book called “Falling Forward”. In it he makes mention of keeping a positive attitude in the mist of tough mess ups and challenges. If you make a mistake or fail, don’t allow your failure to cause your attitude to be one of “I’m a complete failure”. You are the one that has control. A positive attitude is able to take the worst situation and learn from the failures and mistakes. Jessie Jackson made popular the phrase, “Keep hope alive”. Strive daily to work on implementing the attitude of hope – I’m moving forward and getting better. Go forward from your mistakes not backwards into regret and self-pity. A forward thinking attitude will give you stability in your life.
Stabilize your life by learning how to have a positive attitude, seek clarity based on truth and staying forward focused on a great outcome.
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