I was talking to a man the other day who was ticked off about the way he was treated by a waiter in a local restaurant. I listen to his side and I could understand his view and why he would be so angry. But his attitude was so bad that his thinking was becoming unstable. I asked, "Sir, did you consider the other side?" He responded with, "I don’t want to see it from her side. She was wrong and that is it." Wow! His attitude was blocking him from getting to the truth.
Your attitude gives your life stability or causes it to fall apart. It is said that your “attitude determines your altitude”. I like to say your attitude (the way you view life and handle life) determines where your go and how far you will go in life.
3 Stabilizers for your attitude:
1. Learn – First understand that your attitude, be it positive or negative, is a learned behavior or view that you have picked up from your parents, friends, teachers, etc. You might have heard the statement, “You act just like your momma”. When that is said you usually are reflecting an attitude or behavior that your momma would do in that same setting. The good news is that although you might have learned an attitude traits from your momma, daddy or close friend you can change your negative attitudes. To break an unwanted habit, a new habit must be learned. Start to look at people that are effective and successful around you, not the ones that get the laughs and seem to follow the latest trends, but those that have positive attitudes, are solid thinkers and are goal oriented. Learn and adapt positive attitudes to replace negativity. Maya Angelou said it this way, "If you don't like something change it, if you can't change it change your attitude."
2. Clarify – It is said that, "One’s perception is one’s reality and their reality dictates their attitude". This is true but not the end of the story. One’s perception must have a foundational point that is universal for all. In other words, this universal perception for everyone is rooted in something that does not change from person to person or situation to situation. Whatever this is, it brings clarity to all. What is this? It is Truth. When we all have an objective attitude for what’s true, then we can clarify the truth in the mist of sensitive feelings and emotions. I heard the other day a statement that really helped me. It was, “Emotions and feelings give you information not instructions." When you clarify your attitude to resemble what is true you are able to have an attitude of success.
3. Forward – John Maxwell has a book called “Falling Forward”. In it he makes mention of keeping a positive attitude in the mist of tough mess ups and challenges. If you make a mistake or fail, don’t allow your failure to cause your attitude to be one of “I’m a complete failure”. You are the one that has control. A positive attitude is able to take the worst situation and learn from the failures and mistakes. Jessie Jackson made popular the phrase, “Keep hope alive”. Strive daily to work on implementing the attitude of hope – I’m moving forward and getting better. Go forward from your mistakes not backwards into regret and self-pity. A forward thinking attitude will give you stability in your life.
Stabilize your life by learning how to have a positive attitude, seek clarity based on truth and staying forward focused on a great outcome.
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