Experts say that our confidence comes from our inner perception of our abilities to fulfill jobs and tasks that are before us. In other words, if we feel that we can do something great we will have the confidence to do it. On the other hand, if we feel that we are not capable of success we are more prone to be apprehensive. A great writer said it this way, "Confidence comes naturally with success, but success comes only to those who are confident." Boosting our confidence must come from genuinely increasing our inner strengths. Let's look at some non-verbal languages that are reflected in our outward confidence.
Appearance – First impressions are hard to erase so we must be mindful of what we look like at all times. We are painting a picture of who we are every day. Our images speak greatly to the things we like or dislike. It may not be fair but we are judged by our appearances long before we open our mouths. Therefore, our appearances should reflect the inner confidence of quality and success.
Show your confidence and successful mindset through your appearance by aligning it to reflect your desired image. True confidence should come from building good character within first and then reflected outwardly among the public.
Stride – How we walk shows the public how we feel about ourselves. Does our walk display a slow, tired, or painful stride? Or, is it spirited, energetic and purposeful? Our confidence level is shown to others in the way we move from point to point. In the wild, a sluggish stride is an easy prey. Opportunities can miss us when we carry ourselves disconnected from our purpose.
Walk with confidence and purpose. Hold your head up so you can see where you are going. Pick up your pace because you have places to go, people to see, and important work to do even if it is going home. Confidence is gained by choosing to be an important person of purpose and walking as if so. Establish your purpose and make every step purposeful to fulfill it.
Posture – Our greatest possession is our bodies. We use it every day to accomplish tasks and duties. How we carry ourselves is known as our posture. It tells a story about our level of confidence. When we sit or stand with slumped shoulders and move lethargically with our tasks, we can be viewed as having low self-confidence.
Boost your posture by standing erect with your shoulders back. When you speak to people, make eye contact and shake their hand firmly but not too tight. Let others know you are interested in them by giving them your undivided attention. This is showing that you respect their time and who they are too.
Summary - Your confidence level can be increased by displaying an appearance that is positioned towards your direction for life, walking as if you have a purpose, and maintaining a posture of preparedness for whatever comes your way. Be sure to keep your confidence high because of your inner integrity found on truth. Push your arrogance low with humility that displays control.