“Hitting the Wall” is a term often used by long distance runners. It is said to be a feeling of extreme fatigue that comes out of nowhere. It happens around the twentieth mile of continuous running where the mental and physical abilities breakdown, making it extremely difficult to move forward. In life, I'm sure, we experience some "Hitting the Wall" moments or "Life Walls" where moving forward seems impossible and quitting looks like a good option.
Successful runners often re-aline their minds to stay focused on the ultimate goal they want to acheive. Their alinement causes them to overcome the big distraction of quitting. In life you too can re-aline your attention to see the best in every situation. Yes, everything has its downs but where you focus determines your outcome. When times are hard and it seems like the only way is quitting, reflect on your goal and purpose. Charles A. Garfield, says that when you acheive success you can attribute 70% or more to strong mental factors and psychological mastery.
Conquer your "Life Walls" by staying focused on your purpose, enjoying the present and appreciating what you have instead of what you don't have. Tony Robins said, "It's not about how many resources you have but how resourceful you are that ultimately makes the difference." Maximize your moment by making each step a step over your "Life Wall" (Quitting).
Some years ago, officials at the Kruger National Park and game reserve in South Africa were faced with a growing problem; too many elephants in the park. A plan was devised to relocate some of the elephants to another African game reserve. During the moving process it was discovered that transporting the females and babies was easier due to the large size of the males. So they left the older males behind. A few years after the transport something strange started to happen, the juvenile males were becoming aggressive and violently killing other animals in the new park. It was chaos.
After much research, it was discovered that the absents of the mature bull elephants was the culprit. Quickly they flew in male role models and the bizarre and violent behavior of the juvenile elephants stopped completely in weeks. The mature bulls let the young males know their behaviors were not acceptable . In a short time, the younger elephants were following the older and more dominant bulls around while learning how to be mature elephants.
Fathers, just like the juvenile elephant our children follow and learn how to live from us. Our children need to hear about the good things we saw and heard that caused us to be honest, work hard, and respectable. They need to know some of our “When-I- was-a-child…” stories. They will believe what they see and hear. Their beliefs, convictions and general outlook on life are formed and nurtured in the home, for better or worse. Children are innocent, inexperience, void of understanding, and neutral in disposition. They are prisoners of the environment we create or allow. They are dependent!
Life will do us no favors nor accept excuses for our children. The principles of life don’t change for the age or time. Teach them that a good person chooses to think good thoughts, not to say profaned words, do good deeds, go to good places, hang with good people, and find reasons not to fight. Remember your actions speak louder than your words.
Fathers and older men, it is our job to stand up and lead our juveniles to effective living for today and tomorrow.
Douglas Adams said, “Everything you see or hear or experience in any way at all is specific to you. You create a universe by perceiving it, so everything in the universe you perceive is specific to you.” In other words, our perception (external view) of the world is through our five senses; they bring the outside world to our inside minds. After we perceive the external our internal factors kick in which are called our perspectives (internal views).
You can increase your success by first rooting your perspectives (internal views) in productive concepts and principles like: honesty, teachable / positive attitude, respect, diligence, self-control, responsibility, and wisdom. With those in place, try to view things from different angles. Look to see what others might see; change your perceptions (external views) and that will help you have clarity to move forward effectively.
Keep in mind, to block out unproductive concepts and views at the start. Keep the right perspectives (internal views) and they will guide your perceptions (outside views) forward to success.
What are you willing to risk? Jim Rohn said, " If you are not willing to risk the usual you will have to settle for the ordinary." The "usual" are our comfortable areas. The areas where habits have been formed. Keep in mind that every "usual" is not bad. But the "usuals" that cause unproductiveness are the ones that make us ordinary or ineffective in our lives. I'm reminded of a story that I heard about a man that walked down a street one day and fell in a hole. The next day he walked down the same street and fell in the same hole. The following day he tried to go around the hole but fell in the same hole. When he stop settling for the usual and decided to take a risk, he went down another street.
What are you settling for? If you are falling into the same rut day after day because of your usual, take the risk and change what you are doing. Everyday, life presents a new set of opportunities to be mastered. Master yours by learning from your previous mistakes and the mistakes of others.
Take your risk wisely by analyzing them before you act. Count the cost, time, effort, energy, and the frame of mind needed to accomplish your goal. If your risks are higher and more costly than what you want to put in ask yourself why? Why do I not want to pay that much to reach the level of extra ordinary? If the end product is still a need recalculate and try another angle. Whatever you do don't give up! Push beyond your risk to the areas that need improvement. An anonymous writer said, "The biggest risk in life is to risk nothing at all." Remember to move slowly. Change can be good but too much, too fast, at the wrong time can be detrimental.