There is a factor that makes our lives succeed when implemented or fail when we try to avoid it. This factor can causes us to have balance when embraced or be unstable when shunned. This factor is so essential to our lives that regardless of our accepting it or denying it, it still impacts our lives with its attributes. This undeniable factor is TRUTH.
Truth is simply the absolute status or condition of a matter. In other words, it is the real thing. It doesn't change because of opinions, feelings, emotions or circumstances. Truth is consistent all around, it's like gravity - it will always keep you grounded. When we accept truth as our final definer we are considered honest.
3 "U" Factor Points
1. Make A Decision - "Whether we believe we can do something or we can't do something, we are probably right." says Henry Ford. To accept the truth as the final definer can be tough especially when all odds are against us. However, to be the honest person we believe we can be, means that we accept "truth" as the only way to go. This belief is where our long term success resides.
Each day you might be facing some tough situations that make you feel that a lie would make it easier. But I want to challenge you to think about the long term effects of a lie before you act on it. I recall a personal situation I had with a friend. I struggled to be honest about something that had happen. I really felt that a lie would keep me from ruining my reputation and my friendship. But I had made a decision to tell the truth despite the outcome because truth pushes for what's right. With my friend, I told the truth and they were not happy about what had happen but could respect me because I was honest about it. My reputation with that person was confirmed through deciding to be honest in a tough situation. Our relationship has gotten better and has lasted for years because I decided to be honest. You too can be an honest person. Make your decision and push daily to a-line your mind, words and actions to match.
2. Be Real - Being real means that we are honest with ourselves first and then with others. Realness happens when we allow the truth to put us where we need to be before we work to put others in their place. Realness works to keep the truth in front when dealing with feelings, circumstances, problems, etc.
Be real and stay humble even when you might be working with sensitive people. When feelings are on the line, I would suggest prefacing the truth with lead statements like: "I hope this comes out right...", "I don't know how else to say this but...", or "I hope this doesn't hurt your feelings..." These statements can help the receiver know your intent is not to hurt them but to be honest and let them know the truth in love. Look for ways to be honest and loving at the same time. Work to be real each and everyday by allowing the truth to be your leading force.
3. Stand Firm - Being unmovable on what's true is not always easy but trying to be unmovable on a lie is impossible. A good foundation (truth) can support much weight and can last for years but a weak shaky foundation (lie) will always need adjusting and fixing.
Work to keep your mind focused on the long term rewards of being honest. This can help you stand firm on the truth during chaotic times. A great writer said, "The race is not given to the swift nor the strong but the one that endures to the end." So the question arises, "What will give me the endurance I need to make it to the end?" The only thing that will get you there is solid truth because it will not change. Continue to stand firm by building your life each day on truth; it will be with you for the long haul, until the end.
Allow the life changing factor (TRUTH) to impact your life by making a decision to accept it, be real when dealing with yourself and others, and standing firm on its unshakable foundation. Your life can be successful when you operate with the "Undeniable Factor" in place.