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THE OTHER SIDE OF HURT

7/26/2015

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When we get hurt by others it is real. It is an actually part of our memory, our history, and our life. To move forward in our lives we must immediately start to work on forgiveness. Forgiveness is not based on the other person apologizing or recognizing their wrong (although that helps). It starts with us wanting to move on.

A first step to moving forward is deciding to stay in the present. Staying in the present means to keep the original wound out of sight or out of our present minds. It's not acting as if it's not true. It is acknowledging what has happened, but it is not bring the hurt back to life as if it just happen. Bring hurt "back to life" causes us to feel the same associated feelings all over again. We must balance the bad memory with the forgiven memory and allow forgiveness to grow.

I heard a story of a bell that was connected to how forgiveness works. A bell that is connected to a rope is pulled to ring the bell. As long as the rope is pulled the bell rings. When the rope is let go the bell continues to ring for a while but the tone gets lighter and lighter with each passing moment. Forgiveness is letting the bell rope go. After letting go, your emotions will continue to hear the ringing of the bell (the hurt) but eventually the ringing subsides and stops. Lack of forgiveness is continuing to pull the rope consciously and unconsciously. 

Make your mind up to no longer allow that incident to prevent the growth of your life by letting the rope go and never picking it up again. Gandhi said it this way, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” Be strong!



8 Comments
Cody
7/28/2015 05:30:02 am

Have a teachable attitude

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Brittany S
7/28/2015 05:30:44 am

I really liked your illustrations for each point.

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Shelley
7/28/2015 05:31:57 am

I really enjoyed your teaching and looked forward to using it in my workplace. I want to always be teachable.

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Chuck
7/28/2015 05:34:06 am

I enjoyed the perspective on the victimized attitude and why such a thing is harmful.

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Dr. Erica Wilson
7/28/2015 05:36:24 am

Awesome presentation. I enjoyed it all. I come in contact with ALL types of people with both types of attitudes, but I never leave without leaving a trail of positive advice. I have learned how to respond in one manner and that's with a positive attitude. It's wins every time.

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Dallas link
7/28/2015 05:55:44 am

Outstanding talk on connecting with one another as a goal of communication. Well done, well received.

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Carolyn B
7/28/2015 06:52:52 am

Truth & teachable

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Sarah
7/29/2015 04:06:51 am

I was at the MDEQ training where you spoke yesterday. What you said reminded me of my mother and her ability to empathize with everyone she met. She touched many lives before she passed away 11 years ago. Your comments reminded me how much her live inspires my own and how despite some health challenges I face I can still model her servant heart. Thank you.

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