Someone once said, “We can’t live a successful life with a negative mind”. If long term success is desired, we must work to have a positive attitude and a forward focus about ourselves all the time. This positive mind-set doesn't mean we ignore the bad things. It means that we choose to not be defined by the bad things. We look for ways to make the bad things a learning experience to better ourselves. If success is what we seek, we must beware of the killers that want to destroy our lives.
1 – Un-thankfulness – Not showing or give appreciation for little things is a sure killer down the road. Sometimes we think its wimpy to say "thank you" and be polite but many people have moved up to new and better levels by showing gratitude for small things. One writer put it this way, “It is not happy people who are thankful; it is thankful people who are happy.” To have a thankful mindset means that we are continuously showing appreciation to other people. A thankful disposition is fundamental to achieving long term success.
Create a list of things you're appreciative of and read it daily. This activity can cultivate a positive attitude and keep the proper perspectives in view. New levels of success are reached when you are able to find some type of gratitude in all your circumstances.
2. Negativity – Life is full of negative situations. However, that does not mean our attitude has to be negative with it. Analyzing our situations for learning experiences can help us change our negative mindsets to positive ones . Our character is built by making it through tough times and challenges. Most of us are encouraged and motivated from success stories. Stories of how someone made it through a devastating time. Each day our lives should be a success story because we are overcoming the negativity in our minds.
You and I are constantly faced with dilemmas that can turn us negative, regretful, bitter, angry, etc. In spite of all that, allow yourselves to reach beyond the problems and see the strength that comes from persevering through. "Pain is temporary. It may last for a while but eventually it will be replaced by something else." (Lance Armstrong) Keep a positive attitude through the pain, it will help you make better decisions and build personal value for success.
3. Complaining – If we are looking for issues that are not quite right, there will always be many. To achieve the next level of success in our lives we must work on what our mouths say about the issues we encounter. Our words should reflect "building up" of what's right before uttering the wrongs.
Work to keep your complaints low, no matter what the problem. With a good attitude you can look for ways to connect before correcting. Connecting means that you look for something good in others, find out what's going on and encouraging them to make it through their challenges. Once you have found the facts then you will have clarity for your critiques.
Closing: To overcome the success killers (-un-thankfulness, negativity and complaining) you must set your mind to succeed everyday. "Success is no accident. It is hard work, perseverance, learning, studying, sacrifice and most of all, a love of what you are doing." (Pele) Work to overcome your killers by loving to be positive.