Experts say that our confidence comes from our inner perception of our abilities to fulfill jobs and tasks that are before us. In other words, if we feel that we can do something great we will have confidence to do it. On the other hand, if we feel that we are not capable of success we are more prone to be apprehensive. A great writer said it this way, "Confidence comes naturally with success, but success comes only to those who are confident." Boosting our confidence must come from genuinely increasing our internal strengths. Let's look at some non-verbal languages that are reflected in our outward confidence.
3 Non-Verbal Boosters
1. Appearance – What we look like does matter because first impressions are hard to erase. Every day we are making an impression with the way we look. We are speaking volumes to something we like or don't like. So it is up to us to speak to the ones that reflect the image we desire. We are judged by our appearances long before we open our mouths. Therefore our appearance should reflect the internal confidence of good character.
Build your confidence in the way you appear by having it reflect the image of who you desire to be. Make sure your appearance style shows confidence and self pride to others not just you and your peers. True confidence should come from building good character within first (because you work to make that image a reality) and then should be reflected outwardly among the public.
2. Stride – How we walk shows the public how we feel about ourselves. Is our walk slow, tired, or painful? Is it spirited, energetic and purposeful? Whichever one we show displays our confidence level to others. In the wild, animals that have a slow sluggish stride are viewed as weak and therefore an easy prey. When we walk disconnected and confused about our purpose, we can easily miss opportunities that are around.
Make every effort to walk with confidence and purpose. Pick up your pace as if you have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. Confidence is gained by choosing to be an important person (because you know you are) and walking as if so. Then watch how others respond to your confidence as someone important because you make each step purposeful.
3. Posture – Our greatest possession is our bodies. We use it every day to accomplish tasks and duties. How we carry ourselves is known as our posture. It tells a story about our level of confidence. When we sit or stand with slumped shoulders and move lethargically with our tasks, we can be viewed as having low self confidence.
Pep up your posture by standing erect with your head up. When you speak to people, make eye contact and shake their hand firmly but not too tight. Let others know you are interested in them by giving them your undivided attention. This is showing that you respect their time and who they are. Respectful confident posture is being alert and attentive to situations all around.
Summary - Your confidence level can be boosted by presenting an appearance that is positioned towards your direction for life, walking as if you have purpose, and standing as if you are prepared for whatever comes you way. You can change your success level by boosting your confidence. Be sure to keep your confidence high because of your internal integrity and your arrogance low with humility.