Deep within us all there is something called SELF. Yes, it’s that area where our real emotions exist. We typically like to avoid this area because it's where the hard questions and issues lie. This area of our lives defines what kind of future we will have. Dr. Donna Hicks says that our “SELF” craves this thing called DIGNITY but often we ignoring it. So what is this dignity thing and what will it do for me? Dignity is the quality of being worthy of esteem or respect. Being treated with dignity means to be treated like someone special or valued (We like that!) To show dignity means to give others respect as if someone special or valued. (We question that?)
3 Ways to dig deeper for DIGNITY in your life.
1. Acceptance – Let's face it no one is just like you. Even if you are a twin there are different views that you will have because you have a different set of eyes. Everyone has their own uniqueness and because of that, no one will meet your exact standards.
To show dignity (respect) to others, approach people as being neither inferior nor superior to you. Accept others authentic selves without being critical of their differences. It is good to also assume that others have integrity first before putting them in the criminal category. This is what you give to others because it is what you desire from others.
2. Inclusion – This is a tough one especially when there is a possibility of having an enemy on your side. But it is a chance to take to increase dignity in your life. Work to make others feel apart of what's going on. I recall playing basketball and being the last to be picked but when the team captain chose me to be on his team I was excited and empowered with esteem and worth (dignity). I also had an increased desire to do my best to not let the captain down.
Increase your dignity by giving dignity to others. Go after qualities that will bring a positive outcome and promote a betterment of you and those around you. Learn to improve yourself daily by including others.
3. Understand – Steven Covey says we should, "seek to understand before we seek to be understood". This is a point of dignity (respect). The simple act of recognizing someone else for their talents, hard work, thoughtfulness, and/or help is priceless. It cost nothing to be generous with a little praise for another's contributions and ideas, even if you don't use them you valued them as a person and as a part of the team.
Work to treat others justly, without discrimination. Believe that others thoughts matter by giving them a chance to explain and express their points of view. At that point be willing to actively listen in order to understand. That is showing true respect to others which will come back to you.
Summary - Learn how to increase your dignity (respect) by determining what you value and showing it to others first. If you want to be accepted. then accept others; if you want to be included, then included others; and if you like to be understood then work to understand others. Dignity is only increased in your life when given first.