Doreen Virtue says, “Boundaries are a part of self-care. They are healthy, normal, and necessary.” However, we tend to feel that boundaries prevent us from experiencing more of life. It’s like we are missing a pot of gold on the other sided of our boundaries.
Truly, some boundaries are bad and can prevent us from reaching required goals but healthy boundaries are necessary for success. For example: A speed limit sign sets boundaries of what speed is needed to be safe in an area. The posted limited is not set to take the fun out of driving but to guide us to successful arrival. Boundaries should be in place to help us accomplish our goals with the least amount of complications. Life with no boundaries is chaotic.
3 Boundaries to Apply
1. Guide – On a tour there is often an experienced person to lead the guest through unfamiliar areas. The guide instructs the guests how to be safe and experience the most at the same time. In our lives we need a guide(s), someone that has the experience, to help set the needed boundaries for our lives. A life guider can simplify and give the reasons for needed boundaries, how to avoid detrimental dangers, and give the way to experience the excitements of a successful life.
Find a guide (mentor) who can help you establish boundaries for your life. Work hard to stay within the given limits and guidelines of those who have proven themselves wise. You might want to rebel but keep in mind what has been tested, tried and proven true. Follow the guide!
2. Grip – Self-control comes from a root word meaning "to grip" or "take hold of". When we are willing to grip (limit) our words and actions within the boundaries set by our values and principles, we can see effective results in our lives. Benjamin Franklin said it like this, “Remember not only to say and do the right thing in the right place, but leave unsaid and undone the wrong thing at the tempting moment.” Gripping is taking control of our whole selves.
Grip your desires from short-term temptations that conflict with your overarching goals and values. Watch your triggers that are counteractive to your goals. Have YOU in grip (control).
3. Reign – We only have one body and putting boundaries around our bodies’ means that we are the one in charge. We reign! Frederick the Great of Prussia was walking on the outskirts of Berlin when he encountered a very old man proceeding in the opposite direction. "Who are you?” He asked. "I'm a king," replied the old man. "A king!" laughed Frederick. "Over what kingdom do you reign?" "Over me," he proudly replied.
Reigning over you requires constant discipline and continuous tweaking of your boundaries to fit and govern each new situation you face. Make a decision to be in control. It is the most effective way to live a productive life. You can be the "king" or "queen" over your life.
Summary – Life boundaries are essential to achieving a life of success. Get a reputable guider to help you focus through your life issues, grip your words and actions to match your goals and values, and reign over YOU! Live a life with healthy boundaries.